Wheeldon Trees Farm, Derbyshire, England
A classic New York institution, a father / daughter moment. For one evening in New York I got to feel like the luckiest girl in Manhattan when my father took me to Tiffany’s for a gift ‘just because’.
Thank you Dad for this memory, I’ll cherish them always just as I do you.
Photo of me by Dad.
All images taken with my Leica and Tri-x 400 black & white film.
When talking about people with a disease or medical condition, can we eliminate the phrase “suffers from”?
Who came up with this awful phrase, anyway?
I propose we say “has” or “has been diagnosed with”.
I’ve had CF, and CF issues, since I was 11. That’s 17 years now. And yeah, some of it involved suffering.
“But most of it was beautiful.”
I HATE IT when people say, “oh, this is Emily and she suffers from CF.”
Um, no. I might have CF, but I am not suffering from it.
First: the phrase sounds pathetic. “Oh, here’s this poor little suffering girl. How pathetic.” Ugh. Gag me with a fork.
Second: Suffering is, well, optional. Pain isn’t. Suffering is. Suffering is really a state of mind. So when you use the term “Suffering from”, you’re using a term that isn’t accurate, especially when the person isn’t in pain or any sort of discomfort. If you’ve got a picture of a kid giggling while he’s playing with his sister on a jungle gym, it’s fairly obvious the kid isn’t suffering. The kid’s being a kid.
Empathy is great. So is compassion. Pity and maudlin emotion is not.
I don’t “suffer” from anything. I “have” certain things, like I have blue eyes and blonde hair and a few freckles.
So please, don’t say someone “suffers” from something. Simply say they have it. That takes a lot of the emotional charge out of it.
Thank you for your attention to this matter.
A Gibson Girl