Wheeldon Trees Farm, Derbyshire, England


Tiffany & Co.


A classic New York institution, a father / daughter moment. For one evening in New York I got to feel like the luckiest girl in Manhattan when my father took me to Tiffany’s for a gift ‘just because’.

Thank you Dad for this memory, I’ll cherish them always just as I do you.

Photo of me by Dad.

All images taken with my Leica and Tri-x 400 black & white film.

A small request

Dear everyone:
When talking about people with a disease or medical condition, can we eliminate the phrase “suffers from”?

Who came up with this awful phrase, anyway?

I propose we say  “has” or “has been diagnosed with”.

I’ve had CF, and CF issues, since I was 11. That’s 17 years now. And yeah, some of it involved suffering.

“But most of it was beautiful.”

I HATE IT when people say, “oh, this is Emily and she suffers from CF.”

Um, no. I might have CF, but I am not suffering from it.

First: the phrase sounds pathetic. “Oh, here’s this poor little suffering girl. How pathetic.” Ugh. Gag me with a fork.

Second: Suffering is, well, optional. Pain isn’t. Suffering is. Suffering is really a state of mind.  So when you use the term “Suffering from”, you’re using a term that isn’t accurate, especially when the person isn’t in pain or any sort of discomfort. If you’ve got a picture of a kid giggling while he’s playing with his sister on a  jungle gym, it’s fairly obvious the kid isn’t suffering. The kid’s being a kid.

Empathy is great. So is compassion. Pity and maudlin emotion is not.

I don’t “suffer” from anything. I “have” certain things, like I have blue eyes and blonde hair and a few freckles.

So please, don’t say someone “suffers” from something. Simply say they have it. That takes a lot of the emotional charge out of it.

Thank you for your attention to this matter.

A Gibson Girl